What It’s Really Like Out There

Kristin Pelletier

Kristin Pelletier

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Jenna, a Physical Therapist at Henry Ford Hospital in Detroit, has attended Kensington’s Clinton Twp campus with her family for a few years. She believes her strong faith foundation is helping her in this challenging season of fear and ever-changing job responsibilities. “…I started on the ‘prone team.’ Basically, my team is responsible for turning patients onto their bellies to allow them to breathe easier in the hope of reducing the amount of time needed to be on the breathing machine.”

It takes courage just to walk into the room of a COVID-19 patient, Jenna admits, but she’s been focusing on the phrase from Kensington’s previous series: Hope is not canceledShe’s also been reading Rediscover the Saints by Matthew Kelly, which feels more relevant now than ever, “[This book] provided a wonderful example of how saints are people doing amazing things in God’s name. It gives me motivation to show up to work every day.” 

Jenna is grateful for this opportunity to share her experience, and she’s gathered stories from her sister and friends as well. “Thank you…[it has] been therapeutic for all of us to write about how our daily lives have changed.”  

What if during the most stressful season of your life, you had to avoid all contact with those you love most?

You’ve probably heard stories of medical staff staying away from their families because of the very real danger of spreading COVID-19 to them. Even if it’s becoming somewhat common, it’s a considerable sacrifice for each one of them.

Meredith, a school Speech and Language Pathologist, shares how she and her husband have chosen to live apart because of his residency program in Family Medicine at the University of Michigan. Meredith says that her husband is a hero – her hero – and that he goes to work each day with a brave face despite the deep-down fear.

“As the wife of a family physician resident with a one-year-old, we made the very difficult decision that my son and I should isolate from my husband during this time. My husband is working long hours at the hospital and is most likely getting exposed to COVID-19 regularly…We ultimately decided that it would be best if my son and I moved back home to my parents’ for the time being—with no end date and a lot of unanswered questions.”

Meredith believes that God has been very present to her family during this time. “Every night when I put my one-year-old to bed, I sing “I See the Moon” to him. It tells how God is always with us during difficult times and He always loves us. We know God is with us and God will protect us…”

“We did not sign up for this…We did not sign up to be army nurses. We signed up to help people with adequate supplies and protection. YET, we still show up…” says Kristjiana.

Kristjiana, a friend of Jenna’s, is a Registered Nurse in a COVID+ Medical Intensive Care Unit working the frontlines of this pandemic. She shares openly about the range of emotions that surface as she fights this battle of a different kind.

“Every day, it takes me at least five minutes to enter a patient’s room. I have to plan carefully to ensure I do everything I have to do for the patient. I feel guilty because I don’t want my patients to be lonely. I feel guilty because every time I enter, I risk exposing myself, my coworkers, everyone we interact with. I feel scared and paranoid every day. I get in my head about my mask not being on right and contracting the virus. I have nightmares about becoming sick. I wake up in a panic at night. My face and head hurt from the tight masks and face shield. My heart hurts because families can’t see their loved ones in such vulnerable moments. My heart hurts for myself because I can’t hug my coworkers…”

Kristjana explains that even new diseases are usually treated similarly – within a known framework of processes and tools. “[Usually] we know the enemy,” she says, but now they’re not so sure and “it’s scary not knowing.” Nurses receive several emails a day with updates on new processes, and PPE has been limited.

“We’re running out of everything (masks, gowns, gloves, medications, staff, ventilators, etc). We’re all learning to be very flexible and adapt to change. They put up plastic walls so we can take care of more patients.”

Kristjana’s first of many moments of helplessness came several weeks ago, when she couldn’t find a mask for her coworker. “I checked every stash I had, I couldn’t find one in her size. I ran to the next unit, checked their stash, still couldn’t find one. I called the charge nurse, still no masks. I was so scared, I wanted to angry cry. How could we not have enough supplies? I began to hyperventilate as I thought about her husband and children. It was one of the most helpless feelings I’ve had in my life.”

The challenges and perpetual fear are offset by something though: teamwork. Kristjana says that she is working alongside “an amazing group of people whom she can rely on when things get much much harder. ” She even refers to them as “my people,” and sees them pulling together toward victory.

How do you cancel appointments for a patient facing cancer? How do you prioritize a life-threatening disease versus a life-threatening virus?” asks Madison.

Madison, Jenna’s sister, is a Certified Child Life Specialist who runs the Families Facing Cancer Program within the Patient and Family Support Services (PFSS) Department at the University of Michigan’s Rogel Cancer Center. They provide services which support the psychosocial needs of cancer patients and their families.

“Healthcare professionals are helpers, fixers, and doers. They want…everyone to be safe and healthy,” Madison says, “but what if that is overtaken by something out of your control, a life-threatening, global virus with no cure?”

A few weeks ago, Madison was told to work remotely. She was heart-broken. Now she is supporting her patients and their families as best she can over the phone. “I offer suggestions on supporting their children, provide as many resources as I can, listen to them, validate their fears and concerns knowing I have many of the same, try to provide humility and support at a time where isolation closes in on already isolated population. The scare of this virus causes stress, anxiety, fear, and uncertainty to individuals and their families who are already experiencing that on a daily basis with a cancer diagnosis.”

Madison has three requests for us as a community:
  1. Please take the precautions and the executive order seriously.
  2. Please pray for one another and all frontline workers.
  3. Please intentionally support the children in your life. (See Tips below).


Communicate
. Talk to your children in a way they can understand. Use a calm voice, and keep conversations simple and age-appropriate.
Listen to your child and ask open-ended questions. “Tell me what you’re thinking.” “What do you already know?” Use this time to clear up misconceptions and provide honest, accurate information. Also, limit children’s access to media which can spread scary and false information.
Validate a child’s feelings and help them manage anxiety, not eliminate it. Example: “I know you’re scared, and that’s okay. I’m here and I’m going to help you through this.”
Brainstorm ways to manage the anxiety. Practice deep belly breathing, doing arts and crafts, listening to or making music, doing physical activity, and so on. Help children come up with a list of activities that are enjoyable to them. Play continues to be a child’s most important job.
Reassure children that you have a plan to keep them safe. This can be an opportunity to talk about the importance of washing hands, cleaning toys, encouraging them to keep things away from their face, telling an adult if they’re feeling sick, and so on.
Model appropriate coping and the behavior you want to see. Children often look to adults and observe how they handle situations. Try to recognize when you are feeling stressed or anxious and verbalize what you are going to do to help yourself.If you’re on the front lines during this global pandemic, we want to hear your story! Share in the comments below. Together, we will come out stronger.

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Titus 1

Paul, a servant of God and an apostle of Jesus Christ to further the faith of God’s elect and their knowledge of the truth that leads to godliness– 2 in the hope of eternal life, which God, who does not lie, promised before the beginning of time, 3 and which now at his appointed season he has brought to light through the preaching entrusted to me by the command of God our Savior, 4 To Titus, my true son in our common faith: Grace and peace from God the Father and Christ Jesus our Savior. 5 The reason I left you in Crete was that you might put in order what was left unfinished and appoint elders in every town, as I directed you. 6 An elder must be blameless, faithful to his wife, a man whose children believe and are not open to the charge of being wild and disobedient. 7 Since an overseer manages God’s household, he must be blameless– not overbearing, not quick-tempered, not given to drunkenness, not violent, not pursuing dishonest gain. 8 Rather, he must be hospitable, one who loves what is good, who is self-controlled, upright, holy and disciplined. 9 He must hold firmly to the trustworthy message as it has been taught, so that he can encourage others by sound doctrine and refute those who oppose it. 10 For there are many rebellious people, full of meaningless talk and deception, especially those of the circumcision group. 11 They must be silenced, because they are disrupting whole households by teaching things they ought not to teach– and that for the sake of dishonest gain.

Other Helpful Passages:
Ephesians 4
1 Corinthians 12-13
1 Peter 5
2 Timothy 2:2

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Divorce Recovery

You don’t have to go through the pain and stress of divorce or separation alone. Our Divorce Recovery workshop combines expert speakers, small group discussion and a time of community with people on the same journey.

Divorce Recovery Winter Sessions

Troy campus | Mondays 7-9pm | Feb 5 – Apr 15

Orion campus | Tuesdays 7-9pm | Feb 6 – Apr 16

Cost: $45
The cost includes a workbook, snacks at each meeting (including coffee), and dinner at end of session. Childcare available.

You are encouraged to join us on any week. Sessions are self-contained.

Grief Recovery

At Kensington’s Grief Recovery support group, you can find hope and healing after the loss of a loved one. It’s a place where you’ll encounter caring people who can empathize with your pain because they’ve been through it themselves.

Winter Grief Recovery | Feb 6 – April 30 | Orion campus
Winter Grief Recovery | Feb 13 – May 7 | Troy campus (DAYTIME GROUP!)

Find a Grief Recovery group near you: griefshare.org

You are encouraged to join us on any week. Sessions are self-contained.

Kensington Visitation

Our dedicated volunteers bring encouragement and prayers of faith to those who are in local hospitals, medical centers, recovery centers and homebound. If you or someone you know would like to be blessed by such a visit, email visitation@kensingtonchurch.org or call the Troy Campus during business hours at 248-786-0600.

Pastoral Care

Members of our Pastoral Care Team are trained by the nationally known Stephen Ministry program and are compassionate listeners who walk alongside others to provide skilled and distinctly Christian care in times of need. They can’t promise to have all the answers, but they can promise their focused support. To receive care from one of our Pastoral Care Team members, call us at 248.786.0600 and ask for a Campus Care Provider – they can get the process started.

Interested in joining our Pastoral Care Team? Email us for more info.

1 Timothy 3

Here is a trustworthy saying: Whoever aspires to be an overseer desires a noble task. 2 Now the overseer is to be above reproach, faithful to his wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, 3 not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. 4 He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him, and he must do so in a manner worthy of full respect. 5 (If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?) 6 He must not be a recent convert, or he may become conceited and fall under the same judgment as the devil. 7 He must also have a good reputation with outsiders, so that he will not fall into disgrace and into the devil’s trap. 8 In the same way, deacons are to be worthy of respect, sincere, not indulging in much wine, and not pursuing dishonest gain. 9 They must keep hold of the deep truths of the faith with a clear conscience. 10 They must first be tested; and then if there is nothing against them, let them serve as deacons. 11 In the same way, the women are to be worthy of respect, not malicious talkers but temperate and trustworthy in everything. 12 A deacon must be faithful to his wife and must manage his children and his household well. 13 Those who have served well gain an excellent standing and great assurance in their faith in Christ Jesus. 14 Although I hope to come to you soon, I am writing you these instructions so that, 15 if I am delayed, you will know how people ought to conduct themselves in God’s household, which is the church of the living God, the pillar and foundation of the truth. 16 Beyond all question, the mystery from which true godliness springs is great: He appeared in the flesh, was vindicated by the Spirit, was seen by angels, was preached among the nations, was believed on in the world, was taken up in glory.

Other Helpful Passages:
Ephesians 4
1 Corinthians 12-13
1 Peter 5
2 Timothy 2:2

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Before the Last Resort

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Men Only/For Women Only

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Troy

5pm | 12/23
Birth–PreK programming

7pm | 12/23
Birth–PreK programming

11am | 12/24

Birth–PreK programming

1pm | 12/24
Birth–PreK programming

3pm | 12/24

Birth–PreK programming

5pm | 12/24
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Orion

5pm | 12/23
Birth–PreK programming

7pm | 12/23
No children’s programming

11am | 12/24
Birth–PreK programming

1pm | 12/24
Birth–PreK and Elementary programming

3pm | 12/24
Birth–PreK and Elementary programming

5pm | 12/24
Birth–PreK programming

Clinton Twp

5pm | 12/23
Birth-PreK and Elementary programming

7pm | 12/23
Birth–PreK programming

11am | 12/24
Birth-PreK and Elementary programming

1pm| 12/24
Birth–PreK programming

3pm| 12/24
Birth–PreK programming

Birmingham

11am | 12/24
Birth-PreK programming


1pm | 12/24
Birth-PreK programming

Traverse City

2pm | 12/24
No children’s programming

4pm | 12/24
Birth–PreK programming

Clarkston

10am | 12/24
Birth-PreK and Elementary programming

12pm | 12/24

Birth-PreK programming

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Spiritual Formations

Discover rhythms and practices that can help us abide in the love, grace, and hope of God, where our lives can be transformed. Explore some of these practices together with others who are pursuing the same. To find out more, please email discipleship@kensingtonchurch.org.

Birmingham Campus

We are offering a time for our congregation to gather after the 10am service for prayer in the Groves Auditorium, 20500 W 13 Mile Rd, Beverly Hills, MI 48025.

On Sunday evening, Dec 5, parents of high school and middle school students are invited to the second half of our Edge gathering at Genesis Church, 309 N Main St, Royal Oak, MI 48067, at 6:15pm. We will have a breakout to equip parents in caring for themselves and processing pain with their children in times of tragedy.

Parents & Student Resources

Parents – self care is critical. It’s important to do your own processing with another adult so that you can be more present as your child processes. Here are tools that you can use to get you started.

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Counselors Are Needed After Tragedy

“The aftermath of the Oxford shooting tragedy will undoubtedly result in traumatic symptoms and experiences across our communities for quite some time. Healing the brain through evidence-based therapies is absolutely possible with clinical guidance. There is a valuable village of Trauma Therapists with collective resources standing by for Oxford, for both direct and secondary survivors to engage in therapy. Until then, we honorably hold a sacred space, as students, families, staff and school partners continue to mourn.” -Laura Azoni, LMSW, Founder of Sanctuary Services

Orion Campus

We believe that unity at this time is more important than ever. Several churches in the area are partnering together to offer space for students to begin the process of healing.

We will have several grief and trauma specialists on site this Sunday evening at our Orion Campus (4640 S Lapeer Rd Lake Orion, MI 48359) from 5-6:30pm and will have a night of prayer, worship and an opportunity for students to process with each other.

Tate Myre Funeral:
Monday, 12.6 Visitation 1 to 8pm
Tuesday, 12.7 Visitation 10-12pm and funeral at Noon

Clinton Township Campus

We will be offering a time for our congregation to gather after each service for a time of corporate prayer in the Greatroom. Prayer will be offered at 10:15 am and 12:15 pm. (25000 Hall Rd, Charter Twp of Clinton, MI 48036)

This Sunday at 3:30 pm as a community we want to gather, pray and mourn together. We are all looking for answers and wondering why tragedy happens but we can find hope and peace in Jesus. 

Troy Campus

Join us Sunday night, December 5th for a Community Prayer Vigil at Kensington Church at 6:00 pm. Invite friends, family, neighbors, and coworkers to come together for a time of hope and prayer. 

Following the Vigil, at 7:00 pm, there will be breakouts for students and for parents to process and be equipped in caring for themselves and those around in times of tragedy.

Marriage Classes

What grows marriages? Focusing on the two of you and being in community!
The Marriage Course includes seven sessions, designed to help couples invest in their relationship and build a strong marriage. Some couples do the course to intentionally invest in their relationship, others are looking to address more specific challenges. Either way, the course offers essential tools and practical ideas to help you build a relationship that lasts a lifetime. The Marriage Course is based on Christian principles but designed for all couples with or without a church background.

Please email marriage@kensingtonchurch.org with any questions.

Financial Compass

Financial Compass is designed to help you discover the freedom found in wisely managing the resources God provides. To find out more, please email discipleship@kensingtonchurch.org.

Bible Basics

Whether you are brand new to the Bible or have been reading it for decades, Bible Basics is a course that will help you understand the overall flow of the Bible. Over the course of several weeks, learn how the Bible came from the original writers to the English versions we have today. We’ll look at the big-picture story of the Bible and how all the individual books add to the whole. We’ll even learn a little about the history of the Jewish nation. But most of all, we’ll grow in our awe of the amazing author of this amazing book!

Please email discipleship@kensingtonchurch.org with any questions.

Clarkston

Clinton Twp

Orion

Troy

Alpha

What is my purpose? What value does the Bible have in my life? How do I pray? How can I grow in confidence to share my faith? These are the big questions that are at the heart of what it means to have a relationship with God. Alpha is a space to explore life’s big questions, to say what you think and to hear other people’s points of view. Over ten-weeks you will explore and discover while listening to weekly topics, participating in table discussion, and developing community. Alpha courses meeting in-person gather around a meal.

You don’t have to come for the whole series—just check it out for the first session and see what you think. No pressure.

Please email discipleship@kensingtonchurch.org with any questions.

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Orion

Traverse City

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