Unhappiness in marriage often has a simple root cause: we speak different love languages. While working as a marriage counselor for over 30 years, Chapman identified five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. Some husbands or wives may crave focused attention; another needs regular praise. Gifts are highly important to one spouse, while another sees fixing a leaky faucet or cooking a meal as filling their "love tank." Other partners might find physical touch makes them feel valued; holding hands, giving back rubs, and sexual contact. Chapman illustrates each love language with real-life examples.